Dear Donna, From Finicky Fiancé
Dear Donna,
My fiancé is very opinionated about what he would like for the wedding from the cake, to the flowers, to the music and food. He is very involved and I am happy he wants to be a part of things, but I also would like to choose the china pattern and stemware that I like while still involving him in the process. What do I do about my groom, who I adore and can’t wait to marry, but also want to enjoy the wedding planning process without arguing all the time about the details?
Finicky Fiancé
Dear Finicky,
And so it begins. Glad to hear that you are aware of your fiancé’s predisposition and desire to help plan the wedding down to the smallest detail. The wedding planning is only the beginning of building a life together that is full of compromises, understanding, and asserting. So why not start this marriage off with all those things in mind as you plan your wedding together. If there is something that you definitely want to choose, let your groom know that this is very important to you. On the other hand, compromise on the things that are not. Let him select some things that are very important to him and do it with joy. As you say, you like that he is involved, show him that by making the process a happy one.
Your approach to how you both do this in harmony will say a lot about how you will work on life’s challenges together in the years ahead. Keep the big picture in mind as this is the first of many events you will share with this man. Finding the path to navigate these differences, brings you closer together and helps form the bonds that make a marriage last.
Wishing you a lifetime of happiness,
Donna
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